Calling An Ex Back: Such A Big Deal?
Nobody seems to be exempted of the pain brought upon by break-ups. Everybody deals with such at different aspects in life, and as this is so, anxiety and heartache is expected.
Along with the pain is the confusion as to when and should you call back your ex right after your broke up? Several couples have encountered such dilemma. It may not sound okay for you to call him or her, yet you miss your ex terribly.
Primarily, the person who said goodbye first may be afraid to hear from you fearing that you will beg him or her to take you back. If your desire is to let your ex know that he or she still means a lot to you, well he or she will not be able to see this. Instead, you will be perceived like a stalker who is not willing to let go.
When to Call and When Not To
You may call your ex, but not immediately after you parted ways. No matter how much you miss him or her, allow yourself a minimum of 14 days before you actually pick up the phone and call. Patience is indeed a virtue especially at such time. Within the two weeks of waiting, make sure not to leave any communication line open.
Never initiate any manner of communication and do not call back as well even if your ex tried to contact you first.
Meanwhile, if you waste time worrying what your ex will think for not communicating to him or her, then you better think again. You have to remember that your silence has its purpose. By not returning your ex’s calls or messages evokes a different view for the person. It will pave some thought for your ex that perhaps you have moved forward with your life accepting the fact that it’s over between you and him or her, or maybe you have found someone new whom you are busy with. Mind you, this kind of thought will not be deemed as pleasant for an ex to entertain. And who knows, your ex may even start to feel a bit of regret for ending what you both used to have.
You may be thrilled to know that after the “no communication” period of two weeks; your ex’s agitation is uncontainable. And finally, you get to break your silence during such moment. You may call back your ex then.
With your supposed lack of interest and attention, your ex is raging with frustration and curiosity that he or she will definitely answer your call. And what is best is you are increasing the likelihood of getting back with your ex, that is, if you really want this to happen.
The Best Recourse
The no communication strategy that follows after a couple broke up may sound like a brilliant idea, which it actually is. However, you also have to be aware that it brings two possibilities for you, that it can work to your favor or not. Yet, it’s still worth giving a try. The decision to call an ex lover will have to rely not whether it is proper or not but when the perfect time is right. Therefore, timing is important. If you wish to call your ex back, make sure to do it at the most suitable moment.
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