What To Do When You Have Lost Your Partners Trust
Vast numbers of couples and individuals at this time are desperate to prevent their marriage from dissolving. There are of course numerous reasons for a marriage to reach the stage where this is even a likelihood. However, amongst the top 3 reasons is the matter of lack of trust. This may well be a mutual lack or simply one partner lacking trust in the other.
The resulting consequence of lack of trust in a relationship is a considerable amount of mutual stress.
Broken trust can result from simple things from not fulfilling responsibilities and promises to serious matters such as extramarital affairs significant addictions, violence and dishonesty. Once trust has been destroyed it is not always a simple matter to restore it. You have to earn trust and the only way to do this is to make it evident to your partner, in practical ways, that you have changed your behavior–not just by word but by deed. In this way trust may be re-established but it could very well take a significant period of time.
Don’t ever deny that you have been guilty of betraying your spouse’s trust when you demonstrably have, and don’t ever try to justify your actions or lack of them–it will only make it so much harder to re-establish your trustworthiness.
The effects of broken trust can be serious and may even result in divorce.
It is not uncommon for the affected partner to suffer periods of depression if they can make no progress with a partner who refuses, or neglects to change their behavior. Children will also be affected by the atmosphere generated by their parents poor relationship. It would be wise in this circumstance to seek professional advice in the interests of preventing the possibility of a marriage break up.
The occasional bout of lack of trust affects most marriages. For instance when a partner puts off a job or forgets to carry out an important obligation. These may not be serious in character but over a period of time may build up a picture of untrustworthiness. The following points may be useful to consider:
- The first move to re-establishing trust is to admit responsibility for whatever it was that was the root cause of the lack of trust in the relationship in the first place.
- The next stage is to make a definite decision to alter the behavior that resulted in the broken trust.
- Lastly, commit to making the transformation.
The vast majority of marriages are worth saving. Issues of trust can usually be worked through if both parties are willing to recognize that the process may be prolonged. This is particularly so if there have been major lapses on the part of one of the spouses that led to the breach of trust. However, if love is still alive regardless, then you should consider giving your marriage every opportunity to succeed.
